Why Comparing Your Child To Others Bad [ Expert Advice ]
It is aptly said that every child is special. The problem starts when we start comparing our children with others. A good parent is the one who observes their child’s activities and progress and help him improve instead of just finding out their weaknesses and comparing them with others
A lot of Indian parents develop a habit of criticizing their children. They often compare their child with some other child in the relatives or their neighbor or to their friend’s children. This thing is quite common and many of you must have faced it. Let us see some common taunts and things that are told to students by their parents.
Some Common Things Children Get to Hear From Parents
Why don’t you score good marks?
Why are you so lazy in your studies?
Learn something from your brother!
Why don’t you focus on your studies?
You are such a dumb student!
Why are you so poor in your studies? We used to excel in our times!
So, these are the common things that most of the students get to hear!
Why Comparing Your Child to Others Bad
- Creates Low Self Esteem in Children
If you keep comparing your children’s performance in sports or studies with others then gradually they will start losing their confidence level and develop a low self-esteem for themselves. Confidence is quite important in every field be it studies or sports.
We should encourage our children by appreciating their efforts and their achievements. When someone appreciates your achievements you get more confidence and the urge to improve comes from within. On the other hand, if someone keeps on demotivating or doesn’t recognize your achievements, compares your performance with others then you may lose interest in things slowly.
2. Children Stop Participating in Group Activities
When you start comparing your children with other children then they stop taking part in group activities out of fear. They fear that they will not be able to perform well. Whenever they try to do better the same negative thoughts will haunt their mind. If you keep on appreciating your friend or relatives’ children then your own child may develop a thought in their mind that he or she is good for nothing.
3. Eventually They Stop Putting Efforts
Soon they will realize that however hard they try, even if they perform well in their academics or extracurricular activities they are not going to be appreciated. After some time they will feel that what’s the purpose of anything if they are to be compared even after giving the best shot. So, as a parent, you should be happy with your child’s performance. You should motivate them, give them ways to do better but never ever compare them with others.
So, these were the adverse effects of comparing your child. We hope that you have understood why comparing your child to others bad. If you have any questions regarding your child’s academic progress, you can ask me through the comments section below. Stay connected to Achievers Hub Institute and Keep Learning!
Valuable information for parents
Comparison of your child with others means you don’t trust to your own upbringing… As in my thought.. You just have to build your kid’s will with your words not to hunt him with words or comparison.